Monday, May 15, 2017

Question: Should a Woman Keep Her Maiden Name?

In the Western world it is more than common for the woman to take the man's last name when they are married. My wife Daisy adopted my last name as she really wanted to have it. I didn't really care either way, I would have let her keep her maiden name if she had wanted to. While I am super liberal, I do believe children should take their father's last name.  

Should a bride take her husband's surname? 

14 comments:

  1. The way I see it, respect is a two way street. Like your wife, mine wanted my last name, though I really didn't care either way. So if women want to keep their name, good for them, just please don't act like my wife is some subservient sellout who 'sacrificed her identity to be a man's property' because she chose my name (I believe those were the exact words - stay crazy, uberfeminists).

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  2. I think it is up to the couple!

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  3. In Poland, there are always two names and I like it very much :)
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  4. I think it's a matter of personal choice for a woman to make. If I were ever to get married, however, I would keep my own surname.

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  5. I think it's up to the woman to decide whatever is best for her. I chose to switch to my husband's name because his is shorter and easier to write and to pronounce. Had it been the other way around, I would have kept my name.

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  6. Up to her but couples should also talk about the man having her last name or the two combining them (not a double barrelled name but using a portmanteau).

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  7. I like Andrew's idea. When you ask that question it puts the issue in a different perspective.

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  8. I think it's fine to keep you maiden name but it's up to the woman to decide. She's not giving up her identity aT all unless she is feeling feeling guilt if she doesn't change her name. I will never change my name but that's me. I actually have had a couple of clients where the man changed his name to his wife's!

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  10. I hated my last name and was all too willing to let it go. If a woman wants to keep her own last name, I think that's her decision, but hopefully she works it out with her soon to be hubby and everyone is on board before the wedding takes place

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  11. Up to the woman in the end. Either works for me, as I'd want to marry her not the name. But I dislike that stupid hyphenated crap, just looks dumb.

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  12. I think it's negotiable. Nicer if you agree. Took my husband's name in my first marriage. Returned to my family name and kept it in my second marriage many years later.

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  13. I took my husband's last name because his father really wanted me to change my name. It was fine with me. It's funny because my sister in law has the same first name as me. I therefore took over her name.

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  14. My maiden name was MacBeath, and it has always bothered me that I had to give it up. However, it meant a lot to my husband to take his name.

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