Tuesday, January 12, 2016

My Stillborn Nephew's Funeral Was Today

Today wasn't as sad as I had expected, but most everyone had plenty of time to mourn. My brother did a lot better than I expected, but I think part of it was staying strong in front of my niece Little K. My sister-in-law Tiffany (the mother) took it hardest obviously, sobbing and looking like she never wanted to let Evan go. I think what made this death especially difficult is that Evan never got to experience life at all, no first breath, no first day of school, no learning how to ride a bike, no anything really. But he did get to experience one thing that nobody who reads this can claim. He left this world how he came into it; innocent and perfect. 

14 comments:

Huggybear said...

Lovely summary, Adam.
The last sentence says it all.
B J Hunnicut aka Colin

Christine said...

So sad Adam, my brother had a premature twin daughter who died but the twin boy survived...this was 16 years ago. They named her and visit her grave from time to time. Her brother is just fine, in high school now.

Martha said...

A heartfelt post, Adam. That last line is beautiful.

bj said...

Ahhh, Adam...you chose words that describe this so well.
I am so sorry for the mama and daddy especially, but for all the family.
And putting cardboard on your windshield during a snowstorm is a great idea...

Kirsty Vittetoe said...

Sigh..... read your post with a heavy heart, sorry to hear that, will be thinking of you and the family! Take care!

Emmylou said...

So saddened to read about this, Adam. Prayers for little Evan and the whole family.

Theresa Mahoney said...

Innocent and perfect. Couldn't have said it better myself.

Claudia Moser said...

I am truly sorry for your loss!

Just Keepin It Real, Folks! said...

So sorry for your family's loss. What a beautiful tribute you wrote to Evan.

Em-Musing said...

My heart aches for those who mourn Evan. Your tribute is beautiful.

Debra She Who Seeks said...

Hopefully this will be the only such funeral your family will have to attend.

Bethany Carson said...

Very touching post, Adam. Here I am a stranger, and my eyes are tearing. So sorry for your family's loss.

Caro * said...

So sad, I am very sorry for your family.

Kay said...

Oh gosh... I'm so sorry. This is very, very hard.