My aunt Denise was the oldest child on my maternal side, and when I was a kid she was one of the more distant of our aunts. It got even worse the older I got, if I saw her today I'd probably wouldn't recognize her. A few years ago her and my mother tried to re-connect, but I honestly believe she is at least a little crazy. She eventually became extremely rude and hateful even to her own family. My mother and her's relationship crumbled and got very bitter. She eventually said she had "forgave her" then mentioned she'd never speak to her again in the same sentence. My mother got upset when I told her that's not what forgiveness is.